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In your relationship with your children, do you play the “Victim Parent”? I ask this question because all throughout the week, I come across individuals who constantly complain that there children have it out for them or how they’re treated poorly.

While observing the “Victim Parents”, I noticed the communication that goes on between parent vs child and came up with some conclusions. First, I believe often times the way we speak and treat our children is exactly how our children will treat us in return. If we’re yelling and screaming as a way to communicate with kids, more than likely we’ll get the same sort of treatment from them.Our children may not yell and scream back at us, but it will manifest in other ways, such as; being defiant, full of resentment, having little or no trust for you, violence, etc. I’ve noticed that with the “Victim Parents”, they talk down about their children to others and use mocking language to show they’re boss.  Read more... (estimated 3:16 mins reading time)

Free Relationship Advice, from Relationship-Oneness.com
this post is a response to Tiger’s post, “Father Daughter Talk; Finding Solutions to Create Fairness”

The Phone Call

The phone rang and it was my 11 year old daughter Talia. “Hi Mom,” Talia said sounding agitated. “Hey Tia, what’s going on?” I asked with concern. “Oh nothing,” She answered. “Are you sure? Do you need to talk? I will listen,” I said waiting to hear her response. “Well, I’m really upset because I’m being blamed for something I didn’t do and now I’m in trouble and it’s not fair,” Tia exploded.

Talia called me obviously very distraught. She has been living with her father and step mother for about six months now. Tia has a little sister at her dad’s house and was being blamed for something her sister had done. She also expressed to me that it happens all the time. I asked Tia to go over with me what had happened. I personally don’t take sides with anybody; I asked Tia what had happen to get a better understanding to why she was so upset.  Read more... (estimated 3:15 mins reading time)

Free Relationship Advice, from Relationship-Oneness.com

While lying in bed a few nights ago, Tiger and I were discussing ways we could help Adella, our three year old, expand her creative abilities. Adella is a very busy child. She is constantly looking for ways to feed her mind with new information. Tiger told me that he used to be the same way when he was a child and in a lot of ways, he still is.  Adella is just like Tiger, both of them have busy minds and tend to become bored easily. He shared a story with me about a teacher in elementary school that understood how his mind worked.  This teacher recognized that Tiger learned differently, so she gave him a roll of tape to play with during class. It helped to keep him focused and made learning much more enjoyable for him.  Read more... (estimated 4:05 mins reading time)