Anticipate the Moment You Can Share; How to Encourage… Series pt. 5
Free Relationship Advice, from Relationship-Oneness.com
Read the Intro to this 5 Part Series
pt. 1 – Remember Your Capacity to Love
pt. 2 – See Them as Whole
pt.3 – Discover Sincerity in what you Love about Them
pt.4 – Anticipate the Moment You Can Share your Discovery
This is part 5, of a Relationship Series called; How to Encourage a Loved One.
- Communicate your discovery with many smiles.
- Express your discovery with actions in love.
- Conclusion – Speak your heart.
One of my most favorite activities when it comes to encouraging others, is all the time I spend anticipating when I will be able to encourage my wife or tell her how absolutely stunning she is. I get so excited on the inside when I think about sending her sweet messages of encouragement, little love letters that are anywhere between 3 words to 300. There is so much creative power in my anticipation, partly because of this, my wife continues to get more beautiful. I remember when we first met, she wasn’t near as outrageously gorgeous as she is now. I’m not sure there is more than two days that go by without me expressing to her in some way how taken-back I am by her beauty.
And you know what’s crazy, she never gets tired of hearing it! Sometimes I tell her 10 times in one day, then I’ll have to apologize and be like “babe, I’m sorry for telling you this so much, but man, I can not get over how beautiful you are.” She always laughs and tells me not to worry about it, cause she enjoys it as much as I do. And Sincerely, I never tell her she’s beautiful because I want something in return (wink wink), its always the upmost truth in my heart.
How can I do such a thing? Well… have you seen her lol. I purposely focus on what I love about her, not what I think she should change, but what I’m fascinated with, and her beauty is one of those things. As I focus, I make it a point to set intentions to express to her how I feel. Even though at times, I’m just dumbfounded and speak my mind on the spot; luckily usually something sweet and poetic falls out of my mouth.
Communicate your “Sincere Discovery” with Many Smiles.
This is so much fun, as you go about your day and if you see the one you love, smile at them without words, and send them a message of complete encouragement. Let you smile be your form of communication, and behind that big grin is a message of honesty, compassion, and love. If they are from a distance, get on the phone and talk about something completely unrelated from encouragement, but hold a huge smile on your face while you encourage their heart in your mind.
Express Your “Sincere Discovery” with Actions in Love.
Take this opportunity to put action behind your intention. It doesn’t have to be huge tasks, just something you know they would appreciate (even if they don’t express gratitude, you know they still appreciate it). As you act on these actions, let your mind be focused on the encouragement you wish to offer them.
Conclusion: – Speak your Heart
Speak your heart. At this point, if you’ve been following along in this series steps 1 through 5, you might be at point where words want to bubble up out of your mouth; how exciting. One thing I’m sure you’ve noticed during these series, is it’s been a lot of self work. I’m sure many would have assumed this was going to be about how to get others to be how we want them to be, but honestly that is never the true point. The point will always be self growth.
In all interactions, there is a lesson to help us understand ourselves more fully. Your desire to encourage another, is really a desire to connect with self on a deeper level, and that was my goal. Hope it worked 
Through this process I’m sure you’ve had many realizations about Love, Honesty, Compassion, and the like; I very much would love to hear about your discoveries. Please use the contact box below to share what has unfolded in your world. I know that the series may have seemed exhaustive to some, and that’s okay, I just hope that within it you found tremendous value.
