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When you graduated high school did you have an exact plan for your life? I did only because my senior project was based on a five year plan. Over the weekend I had the opportunity to speak with some fresh out of high school students about their plans for the future. I learned so much in just the short amount of time spent asking questions and receiving answers.

Here some of the questions I asked;

• 1. Do you plan on going to college?
• 2. What do you see yourself doing in 10 years?
• 3. Are you currently working and if so, where?
• 4. Why do you feel pressured to ‘Do Something’ with your life right now?
• 5. If tomorrow didn’t exist, what desire would you be fulfilling at this very moment?

Going To College

While sitting outside on a swing talking to a young girl about her future, it dawned on me that these children should not feel so pressured to hurry up and figure out there entire life right out of high school. Questions to ask, Jennifer is her name, began flowing through me one by one. The first one I inquired about was if she was planning on going to college. Jennifer told me that she wanted to get into the nursing program for the fall term, but it was already full. I asked Jennifer if nursing and college is what she really wanted to be doing right now, or if she felt pressured into ‘Doing Something’. She told me that she didn’t really want to go to college or be a nurse, and had absolutely no idea of what she would go to college for.

10 Years From Now

Jennifer told me she had no idea what she saw herself doing in ten years and how she felt nervous making such a life changing decision for the future. I watched her ponder some more about this question. Jennifer stated, “I feel like my whole world is over since I graduated school, I don’t know what to do.” I told her that I remembered feeling the same way considering we go to school for so long, and in that time, we’re told what to do.

Currently Working

I asked Jennifer if she was currently working and if so how she felt about her job. Jennifer conveyed to me that she has had her job for almost two years and was getting bored with it. She also mentioned that finding a new job right now is almost impossible due to the economy, so she didn’t want to let her job go.

Pressured

Why is it that freshly graduated seniors from high school feel so pressured to ‘Do Something’ right away? Jennifer told me, “that’s how life is supposed to be. We need to go to college and get a good career going, plus family and friends expect that from us.”

Wow! I noticed how it was never about what Jennifer wanted and how she spoke of what everyone else wanted for her.

If Tomorrow Didn’t Exist

I wanted to place the power back into Jennifer’s hands and help her realize that this was her life and nobody else’s. So I asked her if tomorrow didn’t exist, what desire would she be fulfilling at this very moment? Jennifer said that she would quit her job and move to Portland to be a nanny. Then I asked her if she saw herself being a nanny the rest of her life? Jennifer said, “no, I want to do so much with my life. That’s why I feel stuck. I don’t know what to do or where to start. I can’t see myself doing one thing forever.”

Deep In Thought

I spoke with a couple other graduates and found out that most of them feel the same exact way! Why is this? Is it that we are being told what to do with our lives? Is it that school is set up to mask our creative abilities rather that enhance them? Maybe for some?

I mentioned to Jennifer that more than likely she’s feeling this way because life isn’t supposed to be stagnant. When she see’s herself staying at one job her entire life, she freaks out and isn’t able to enjoy the now. That’s why her mind is never made up because college isn’t where she desires to be, she wants to go off to Portland to nanny. But she feels pressured to go to school for ‘The Long Term’.

I told Jennifer that she has the power to do anything that she desires and if she felt like just being a nanny right now, than do it! And If tomorrow she felt like doing something else, then do that. Nobody says you have to stay in one spot for the rest of your life, you’re the one making that choice! Life is supposed to be colorful, exciting, and full of adventure. After telling Jennifer this, I saw a powerful light go through her. She mentioned to me that nobody had put it that way to her before. She thanked me and also said how she would love to have more conversations like this in the future!

Conclusion

Jennifer was very grateful to have someone there to understand her and offer some great advice! I will check back in and give an update on her status as far as her job choices and what she’s choosing to pursue in her life right now!

I believe that it’s important to encourage young adults to pursue their desires. How many young kids have you encouraged to do the same?

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