See Them as Whole; How to Encourage a Loved One pt. 2
Free Relationship Advice, from Relationship-Oneness.com
Read the Intro to this 5 Part Series
pt. 1 – Remember Your Capacity to Love
This is part 2, of a Relationship Series called; How to Encourage a Loved One.
3 points to See Them as Whole.
- Remember the greatest lessons you’ve learned.
- Understand that others learn in their own time.
- Visualize them as perfect in the error you see.
Seeing others as whole, presents an opportunity that I find to be truly amazing. This has to do with accepting other people for who they are and releasing any attachment to how you think they should be. In reality, or true perception, they don’t have to be any other way than they are now, we may have our preference to the type of people we enjoy, but ultimately they are their own person and have the right to do with there life as they see fit.
I remember encouraging my wife years back, she wanted to take on a challenge that I thought wasn’t in her best interest. I remember thinking, “wait tiger, this isn’t your life, even if she is your wife, she has desires that are beyond your understanding, and what’s good for her may not be what you currently understand.” This was a tremendous relief, I had released the attachment of her needing to be someone I thought was best for her, in that discovery life worked out better than any of us could have imagined. I simply encouraged her by expressing my opinion, but letting her know that this was her choice, and ultimately she knows what’s best for her own life.
Remember Your Greatest Lessons
A good exercise here would be to remember some of your greatest lessons, and reflect on how in the moment you didn’t know you were going to learn so much. For myself, starting PAW Daily was one of those things, it didn’t turn out to be a profitable venture, but the amount I’ve grown personally over the past 6 months of doing it has been outrageous.
Understand that Others Learn in their Own Time
Understand that some people may not be ready for the challenges we may be ready for. This is a natural order of life, people grow in their own way and time. I’ve found that when I appreciate that process and the diversity of growth that comes with it, I find it much easier to accept others for who they are now. The perfection is not that they are good at everything, the perfection is that they are growing in their own way.
Visualize them as Perfect in the Error You See.
Quick note; when I refer to them as “Perfect,” I am referring to them as “whole.”
Take time to really do this. It’s not that you have to accept the behavior as constructive, just accept the behavior as their own lesson and see their own healing coming in due time. In your mind, see them as growing. See them becoming their highest vision, not the vision you have set for them. See their smile as they overcome any challenges they may be facing, experience that emotion and feeling in your heart.
Why does this work? Well after you try it, let me know. From my experience, visualization with experiencing the emotion and feeling behind what you desire has a funny way of making itself know in the physical world. I’d love to hear some of your experiences with visualization and how it might have affected your way of life.
