Wayward Loved One; A letter to encourage a perspective of light
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One of our greatest opportunities for growth in relationships, has to do with how we choose to observe another person. Our perception is not always reality, when we can step back from beyond our tiny frame of reference, new doors of light open up and allow up to live with more love for others and for our selves.
The below letter of encouragement was written to my mother today with regard to my younger brother who is 15 at this time. What a fun age lol. We were discussing some challenges in his life and this email was a response to a conversation we had earlier in the day. I know I kinda dropped you in the middle of the conversation with this letter, but after it was written I knew there was value for others. Here is the letter in its entirety….
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Thank you for the kind words. In reflection on your perspective of my talents, I’m humbled and encouraged. What I find amazing in relationship to my own life and my brother Mikey’s life, is within his young age is the same potential that lies within myself. When I was young, yes I did crazy things. Not the same as Michael, but in principle it was very similar. As I grew, it wasn’t per se any one persons influence in my life that forced me to grow or realize the creative possibilities within; I wouldn’t even define it as my parents doing. Yes, there were those that encouraged and those attempted to guide, but ultimately I did what I wanted. Sometimes what I wanted wasn’t constructive (seeing through the normal lens), but on a deeper level, what could have been seen as damaging could also have been my greatest lesson towards healing and understanding myself more fully. Because of this, it’s difficult to see anything Michael does as wrong or bad, it is only unique learning.
Yes, it could be something we would choose not to do, but that’s exactly why we are not them. We ultimately can only be responsible for ourselves, yes we may get bit in the butt from time to time because of the decisions others may make, but in hindsight, was it really that big of a deal. I think of circumstances in my own life where things I did where “sooo wrong,” now I’m in a place where wow, that was kinda got blown out of proportion. The lesson may be to learn how to keep things in perspective as we grow.
I know it’s tough; to watch your son, my brother, make decisions that “seem” damaging. We do need to keep in mind we have an ego, sometimes that ego is more concerned with a damaged image, rather than a damaged heart of another. I think Michael’s heart is in a good place, it may be hidden from light from time to time, but again that’s how we know what the light looks like because of its contrast to the dark. Hopefully we can find thankfulness for those times that seem darkened, as the light we seek becomes more defined and more prominent when we discover its brilliance.
I find this true for me, the joy I experience with my efforts in love online and within my family, are so magnificent because I spent much time in a dark place. Michael is only swimming up stream, by his choice – and I’m thankful he has the capacity to choose for himself how he shall learn to swim. This will offer tremendous strength over time. It is a reminder for my self that as I view him, I remain in my current stream of easeful flowing. My heart is not interested in resisting what is. My desire is to work with the natural flow and find more creative ways to express love to others (my brother) and myself. If I resist, and join his swim up stream, I only withhold love from myself and this is not the example I wish to share with him. If I join in his fight against self and life, then my inner light is unable to shine for him to see.
This is one of my current favorite experiences. Is being love for my brother to observe, not to be shades of gray trying to dictate his decisions. I enjoy having him over at my place to see an example of loving relationships, loving parenting, and loving decisions. It is my opinion, this will make the greatest impact not only for my own growth, but for him as well.
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June 22nd, 2009 at
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